Tuesday, September 4, 2007

What do we really need in life ?







Philosophy pesa poraaan inga oruthan
(Someone is goin to speak abt philosophy)....




To be honest...This is not philosophy...But something which is going through my mind for the past few days...
I really dont know, why I have such a question fleeting through my mind... When I ask you the same question ???


"" What do we really need in life ?""
I know you would be thinking for a while and might say...
Family, Friends,wealth,health...Ultimately a happy and peaceful life till the end ..

But when we try to reach onething, the other things might not stay with you...
Many people say that Money can bring Happiness, but how long that happiness gonna stay with that person...??
Few would say Family and Friends, to what extent the happiness can be extended to ???

But...I have been thinking abt this for a while....Yea....When we think more in depth...we could realise,



Happiness is not defined by any one
but
It is how one individual think
and take up the things.


Letz take an example of my days ...

When I was studying in the school...I was doing all sort of things...doing all mischievous things, playful in every thing I do..
Never cared about other things that I came across...
By then...I was happy most of the times...There were times during which I felt unhappy but it was only when I get scoldings from someone...And...that unhappiness didn't stay for long time as I was least bothered about those scoldings... There were less expectations or no expectations...So I was enjoying the days with happiness....

When days started to move in a flurry, I had many changes within myself which was like, Change in the environment, restrictions on the things that I enjoyed doing and so on...By then...I used to think of the past and stay happy but that was not the real happiness...
I knew that I'm missing something in the present but then there was no proper direction to reach that happiness...

Suddenly after few days/months...there were lot of questions pumped in and everybody started asking the same question...What are you goin to do after school ? oru dialogue innum nyabagam iruku...(One dialogue which I still remember)... olunga padiakala naah,,, carrier thookara career thaan kidaikumnu ( If you dont study well,,, You would be doing a carrier "Porter" job)....
Till that moment,,,I never thought about the future and I was living the day with ease...but when I was thrown with hell lot of question....I had lots of question arising within myself with no answer... Certainly I wasn't happy all the time except those days when I was out of the town... I used to think...why I'm goin back to town....why is the school reopening after holidays ??

If you think at this point..The truth can be realised... that I didn't do those things happily but did with mere pressure exerted and on demand, I did all those things.....
" It is jus like sachin playing his natural game vs playing under pressure situation " .....
Whereever I was...School or college....All I did was due to the pressure exerted !

I can hear your question...Why didn't I enjoy doing it ??? It is very simple to answer....Motivation to acheive something was missing which is very important aspect in everyone's life !

Rather, I would say...I was like a horse with the both eyes narrowed down.....Certainly that wasn't my fault but that was an expectation on me !
To those who got an feeling that I was studious and bright.....You have to erase that thought...I was jus a normal bloke..

Atlast, When I started enjoying the days at college...final days @ college were fast approaching...I could count the number of instance when I was happy !!!

College life ended jus like the school days without leading any clear view on the future ! Then, I started running in search of a future/career....Only few know the pain that I had, when I was running through that path....

Meanwhile...I did some course which came out of blue...It came all the way bcoz of the rush in the market for that subject....I was doing that course and my mind was desperately searchin out a place to start my career...Again...I was directionless compass in search of a needle to point out the direction...

Out of desperation,,I started concentrating on a different career which was out of my course which I was doing...I dont know whether to call it as luck....I got into a small company to work with less pay....
But still I was happy for few days...You might ask why...only for few days..I was happy...I was happy becoz I started my career and started focussing on my career...

Ya...I can hear your next question....Why did I go unhappy after a while ???

Let me tell you...I was learning more and more, and I knew this company cant keep me satisfied in all aspects...When people around me were payed a decent amount as a salary...I wasn't....

So I was looking out for a job with a better pay and a company with reputation....
Again..I dont know whether to call it as a luck...I got a job which gave me enough admiration...Needless to say...Eventhough they paid less compared to most other people .... I was happy doin that work and it was a great learning experience...I enjoyed doing that and also I should mention the people who were my colleagues without them I wouldn't have reached the next level...They were equally competent, unselfish, helpful and it was fun filled times... I was happy for quite some days...

Suddenly I was taken off from that place to different place to work...I felt so unhappy as it was very restrictive and then....I started thinking about the next level....which ultimately forced me to look out for better job where I can attain more happiness and satisfaction.

One day I got an interview from my present employer which I missed out due to unavoidable situation....but I got an another opportunity in few days to attend the interview....I went there with full confidence and I got selected the same day....I felt so happy that day which is still fresh in my mind....

I got a job with decent salary, good environment to work with and good set of people who were always supportive..I was with a gang of fun filled team members...I rarely felt unhappy and I always wanted stay @ office which gave me more happiness in terms of work and also in personal front...

Whether these happiness stayed with me ???

Stay tuned.....will continue after a break....